What’s Keeping You from Meeting Mr. Right?

What’s Keeping You from Meeting Mr. Right?

 

The answers are closer than you think.

Here’s the deal. Your ‘Mr. Right’ is out there right now…probably wondering where you are, and one of the most important things you can do on your journey from being Single to Smitten is to get out of your own way and into his arms! BUT – in the meantime, there’s work to do.

So what’s in the way between you and him right now? Time, Space, Opportunity…maybe, but I assert the biggest thing in between you and him might be, well…YOU.

Stick with me here. I know it’s not always easy to take a look at yourself and much easier to spend an evening complaining with girlfriends that there are no ‘good men left out there’, but that’s a copout. Don’t get me wrong, I’ve been there and everyone can use a good venting session to cleanse the system. But, the fact is that your Mr. Right is out there – right now…so what gives? Why haven’t you met him yet? Rumi pointed to what might be keeping you from meeting Mr. Right when he said:

“Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.”-Rumi

What I think he’s saying is that there is love all around you, potential ‘Mr. Rights’ are everywhere. The place to begin your journey from being Single to Smitten might be in taking an honest inventory of yourself to see not if but what barriers you might have built against the possibility of meeting your ‘Mr. Right’. Make no mistake – these barriers are like belly buttons – we all have them (I did too!) and they can show up like:

  • Limiting Beliefs (Ex: There are no ‘good’ men left to date, or I’m not the kind of girl that guys approach)
  • My Mr. Right has to come from this region, educational background, profession
  • Being attached to dating a certain ‘type’ of guy
  • Income Level requirements
  • Physical characteristics you’re fixated on
  • Only meeting him a certain way (Ex: Like through mutual friends, at work, etc.)
  • Fear of intimacy and letting someone truly get to know all of you – the good, bad and the ugly
  • Body language that says, ‘Stay Away’ or ‘Approach with Caution’

Remember, there’s nothing wrong with having these, they’re simply obstacles that might keep you from allowing your ‘Mr. Right’ in. The worst thing to do is to ignore them – that’s the only way they can impede you. Once you shine a light on them you can choose whether you will continue to allow them to be in the way or let them go.

 

Single to Smitten Challenge:

Take an honest inventory of yourself and get clear about what barriers you might have built up against finding love. (Hint: some of these barriers might be in your ‘blindspot’ so I suggest you come up with a list yourself and then ask 3-5 of your closest friends what they think some of your barriers to meeting Mr. Right might be – and give them permission to tell you the truth – they will. Compare the two lists and see if there is any overlap? Did your friends point out something you didn’t already know or see in yourself?