Are you ready to meet “The One”?

Are you ready to meet “The One”?

Start by practicing this dating strategy MUST.

I’ve been married for over 3 years now and I know for sure if I hadn’t practiced this one vital dating strategy while I was looking for my Mr. Right – I would have missed out on meeting the love of my life. This dating strategy must is: BE OPEN!

I know this sounds nice and simple in principle, and I thought I was being open, but like many of my girlfriends…I was only ‘being open’ within the confines of what I thought was my ‘type’ or with ways I’d met men in the past. So, once I accepted that I could practice being more open – I realized that this was going to be an ongoing choice.

In practicing being open to new people and ways to meet men, I tried online dating. I had always met men the ‘traditional’ way…through school, work, mutual friends etc. so, stepping out and trying it was a stretch for me. And from what I hear from some of my clients and single girlfriends, I’m clear there’s a lot of ‘online dating-angst, overwhelm and burnout’ out there, so I’m not saying that online dating is THE way to meet your Mr. Right. It’s only ONE of many ways/venues to Manifest Your Man.

The first man to contact me had an o.k. profile, but I couldn’t really get a sense of him from his pictures etc., so I replied to him with a polite “I don’t think we’re a match” note and moved on. Several false starts, phone conversations, emails and one Bridget-Jones-scale-in-person-meeting-debaukle later (Visualize me crying over my sushi in a restaurant with my girlfriend rubbing my back to console me about the disappointment of meeting yet another Mr.-Not-So-Right-After-All), I thought it was time to reflect. I got clear about what I’d learned and remembered what I was committed to with this whole online dating adventure in the first place and that was to BE OPEN.

Open to new ways to meet men, open to different kinds of men etc. and I suddenly realized that I’d never really been open to getting to know the first man who contacted me. So, I decided out of sheer commitment to BEING OPEN – really being open – to leave no stone unturned and check back in with him.

Despite the awkward ‘remember me?’ – email I sent to see if he was still single and/or interested in getting to know me, he replied and he did remember me, was currently single, and still open to getting to know each other. Long story short, after many emails, long hours on the phone, in person visits and an international move, we got married and I am madly in love with my husband – THE ONE I would have definitely missed out on if I hadn’t practiced BEING OPEN.

So single ladies – What does this mean for you?

It means there’s an opportunity to ask yourself if you’re really BEING OPEN to the men who are currently in your life, to meeting new one’s who aren’t, or who you otherwise wouldn’t typically consider dating.


Single to Smitten Challenge:

Reach out or respond to a man, or men, you wouldn’t normally be open to dating and get to know him/them anyway. Go on that date, join that website, try out speed dating, hire a matchmaker, take/make that phone call, write that email and what develops may surprise you. Either way, you’ll have the peace of mind that you didn’t let any ‘missed opportunities’ pass you by.

What’s Keeping You from Meeting Mr. Right?

What’s Keeping You from Meeting Mr. Right?


The answers are closer than you think.

Here’s the deal. Your ‘Mr. Right’ is out there right now…probably wondering where you are, and one of the most important things you can do on your journey from being Single to Smitten is to get out of your own way and into his arms! BUT – in the meantime, there’s work to do.

So what’s in the way between you and him right now? Time, Space, Opportunity…maybe, but I assert the biggest thing in between you and him might be, well…YOU.

Stick with me here. I know it’s not always easy to take a look at yourself and much easier to spend an evening complaining with girlfriends that there are no ‘good men left out there’, but that’s a copout. Don’t get me wrong, I’ve been there and everyone can use a good venting session to cleanse the system. But, the fact is that your Mr. Right is out there – right now…so what gives? Why haven’t you met him yet? Rumi pointed to what might be keeping you from meeting Mr. Right when he said:

“Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.”-Rumi

What I think he’s saying is that there is love all around you, potential ‘Mr. Rights’ are everywhere. The place to begin your journey from being Single to Smitten might be in taking an honest inventory of yourself to see not if but what barriers you might have built against the possibility of meeting your ‘Mr. Right’. Make no mistake – these barriers are like belly buttons – we all have them (I did too!) and they can show up like:

  • Limiting Beliefs (Ex: There are no ‘good’ men left to date, or I’m not the kind of girl that guys approach)
  • My Mr. Right has to come from this region, educational background, profession
  • Being attached to dating a certain ‘type’ of guy
  • Income Level requirements
  • Physical characteristics you’re fixated on
  • Only meeting him a certain way (Ex: Like through mutual friends, at work, etc.)
  • Fear of intimacy and letting someone truly get to know all of you – the good, bad and the ugly
  • Body language that says, ‘Stay Away’ or ‘Approach with Caution’

Remember, there’s nothing wrong with having these, they’re simply obstacles that might keep you from allowing your ‘Mr. Right’ in. The worst thing to do is to ignore them – that’s the only way they can impede you. Once you shine a light on them you can choose whether you will continue to allow them to be in the way or let them go.


Single to Smitten Challenge:

Take an honest inventory of yourself and get clear about what barriers you might have built up against finding love. (Hint: some of these barriers might be in your ‘blindspot’ so I suggest you come up with a list yourself and then ask 3-5 of your closest friends what they think some of your barriers to meeting Mr. Right might be – and give them permission to tell you the truth – they will. Compare the two lists and see if there is any overlap? Did your friends point out something you didn’t already know or see in yourself?