Are you ready to meet “The One”?

Are you ready to meet “The One”?

Start by practicing this dating strategy MUST.

I’ve been married for over 3 years now and I know for sure if I hadn’t practiced this one vital dating strategy while I was looking for my Mr. Right – I would have missed out on meeting the love of my life. This dating strategy must is: BE OPEN!

I know this sounds nice and simple in principle, and I thought I was being open, but like many of my girlfriends…I was only ‘being open’ within the confines of what I thought was my ‘type’ or with ways I’d met men in the past. So, once I accepted that I could practice being more open – I realized that this was going to be an ongoing choice.

In practicing being open to new people and ways to meet men, I tried online dating. I had always met men the ‘traditional’ way…through school, work, mutual friends etc. so, stepping out and trying it was a stretch for me. And from what I hear from some of my clients and single girlfriends, I’m clear there’s a lot of ‘online dating-angst, overwhelm and burnout’ out there, so I’m not saying that online dating is THE way to meet your Mr. Right. It’s only ONE of many ways/venues to Manifest Your Man.

The first man to contact me had an o.k. profile, but I couldn’t really get a sense of him from his pictures etc., so I replied to him with a polite “I don’t think we’re a match” note and moved on. Several false starts, phone conversations, emails and one Bridget-Jones-scale-in-person-meeting-debaukle later (Visualize me crying over my sushi in a restaurant with my girlfriend rubbing my back to console me about the disappointment of meeting yet another Mr.-Not-So-Right-After-All), I thought it was time to reflect. I got clear about what I’d learned and remembered what I was committed to with this whole online dating adventure in the first place and that was to BE OPEN.

Open to new ways to meet men, open to different kinds of men etc. and I suddenly realized that I’d never really been open to getting to know the first man who contacted me. So, I decided out of sheer commitment to BEING OPEN – really being open – to leave no stone unturned and check back in with him.

Despite the awkward ‘remember me?’ – email I sent to see if he was still single and/or interested in getting to know me, he replied and he did remember me, was currently single, and still open to getting to know each other. Long story short, after many emails, long hours on the phone, in person visits and an international move, we got married and I am madly in love with my husband – THE ONE I would have definitely missed out on if I hadn’t practiced BEING OPEN.

So single ladies – What does this mean for you?

It means there’s an opportunity to ask yourself if you’re really BEING OPEN to the men who are currently in your life, to meeting new one’s who aren’t, or who you otherwise wouldn’t typically consider dating.


Single to Smitten Challenge:

Reach out or respond to a man, or men, you wouldn’t normally be open to dating and get to know him/them anyway. Go on that date, join that website, try out speed dating, hire a matchmaker, take/make that phone call, write that email and what develops may surprise you. Either way, you’ll have the peace of mind that you didn’t let any ‘missed opportunities’ pass you by.

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